【龙腾网】当你意识到你的孩子比你聪明，你会怎么想？

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We weren’t surprised. I always thought my wife was one of the smartest people I knew … from the day I met her in college. I was working on my doctorate in physics, she was an undergrad majoring in classics - reading the Greek philosopers in the original. That she was so bright and articulate was why I wanted to spend my life with her. Why would I not?

我们不会惊讶。大学那会我正在攻读物理学博士学位，我妻子是一个修古典文学的本科生——正在阅读希腊哲学家的原著，从这一天开始认识我妻子时，我就认为我的妻子是我认识的最聪明的人之一。她如此的聪明伶俐，这就是为什么我想和她共度一生的原因。

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1.Ron Brown
, A parent for 49 years.
So when our kid (maybe at four or five) was sitting on the floor having just finished a jig saw puzzle and his mom congratulated him and asked how many pieces it had, he responded, “I have no idea, but it must be more than a hundred. Look, there are thirteen pieces this way,” [pointing left to right] “and eight this way. That must come out to more than a hundred.” He understood the notion of multiplication before he had ever heard the word or what it meant or how it could be used. I thought that was pretty bright - and knew I’d never have thought of that at five. I’m sure that wasn’t the first sign, but it was the one that came to mind when I read the question. But I find the question a bit odd. Why would one not want their child to be more intelligent than themselves. Why would they ever not feel a sense of satisfaction knowing their child has the potential to learn and reason?

我们的孩子在大概四五岁的时候，坐在地板上刚刚完成一个拼图，他的妈妈祝贺他，并问他有多少块拼图时。他回答说：“我不知道。但是肯定超过100块。”，他说：“看这边有13块”，然后指着左边到右边说：“这边有8块，那肯定有一百多个了。” 那时他还没听说过乘法这个词，不知道乘法的意思和用法，但是他却明白了这个概念。我认为这不是，他第一次理解乘法的概念。但是在我五岁的时候是不会想到这一点，所以我认为他很聪明。我觉得这个问题本身有点奇怪，为什么有人会希望孩子比自己笨呢？当他们知道自己的孩子有学习和推理的潜力时，难道他们不会为此而感到幸福吗？

1.1Thea Tara
… why? You lucky guy. You must have missed living with a jealous parent. At 85 she’d still get mad if I knew more than she did.

……为什么？你是一个幸运儿。你一定很怀念和你父母住在一起的日子。但是我就不同了，如果我知道的比我的母亲多，在我母亲85岁的时候，她还是会生气的。
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1.1.1Ron Brown
Yike, Thea. My mother was wasn’t that - but she would be quick to correct a teacher who would tell her how smart I was by saying I didn’t keep my room very straight … or something, just to put the praise into perspective.

我母亲就不会为我的聪明感到开心——如果我老师告诉她我有多聪明，她就会很快地反驳老师，会说我没有把我的房间打扫很整齐……或者其他什么，仅仅只是为了让别人表扬她。

1.1.1.1Thea Tara
…ah… when my son was in second grade I told him not to worry about the teacher cuz teachers weren’t very smart. The universe has punished me ever since.

我儿子在上二年级的时候，我就告诉他，不要害怕老师，因为老师不是很聪明，从那以后， 他就不聪明了。

1.2Linda Napier
When my daughter was a freshman in college she came home for a visit. She left a paper out she had been working on for a psychology class . I picked it up to read it. I thought maybe it had come word-for-word from a textbook because I couldn’t understand any of it! I asked her later. She told me she had written the entire thing on her own. I was amazed! I knew she was smart because she had straight A’s in every grade, kindergarten through 12th grade but that blew me away!

我上大一的女儿那时回家，留下了一篇心理学课的论文。当我拿起来读的时候，发现我根本读不懂，这可能是她从课本上逐字逐句抄来的。后来我问她这篇论文是她自己写的吗？她说这整本书都是她自己写的。我非常惊讶！我知道她一直很聪明，因为从幼儿园到12年级,她每个年级的成绩都是A，但即便如此，她竟然写了一整本书，仍然让我很惊讶！

1.2.1Ron Brown
For me, a lot of what I liked about university teaching is being in constant touch with young people like your daughter - people who thrived on doing things well. It gives on hope for the world. Thanks for chiming in Linda. (But you should take some credit for that, of course, you are the one who raised her.)

对我来说，我之所以喜欢在大学教学的很多原因是因为像你女儿这样的年轻人——这些人善于把事情做好，给世界带来希望。谢谢你的教导，你的女儿之所以这么优秀，主要得归功于你，因为是你把她养大的，琳达。

1.2.1.1Linda Napier
I see you taught at San Luis Obispo. My daughter graduated from CAL.

你在圣路易斯·奥比斯波教书。我女儿毕业于加州

1.2.1.1.1Ron Brown
Good for her! I was at a UC as a student, but my career was at Cal Poly - a good choice for me and my interests (and an amazing place to live).

祝她好运！我曾经也是一名加州的学生，后来加州理工大学工作——在这里工作对我来说是个不错的选择。

2.Colin Riegels
, 19 years of being a father
Well, it wasn’t like a sudden realisation. It was something became more and more apparent over a fairly protracted period of time. My oldest son was, honestly, pretty ordinary for most of his early years. But once he turned about 11 or so, he started to excel academically. I think when I first suspected that he was going to outgrow me intellectually was when he won an academic scholarship to a British boarding school at 13. Over the years the evidence continued to mount. When he got 35/36 on his ACT without any prep I was pretty certain. When he got five A*s in his A-levels I was pretty much unsurprised. Everything I had ever achieved academically he was surpassing easily.

自己的孩子如果比自己聪明，我会有什么样的感觉？？这不是突然就能意识到的，这需要相当长的时间去发现这种感觉，并且这种感觉会越来越深刻。说实话，我的大儿子在他小时候的大部分时间里，都很普通，直到他11岁左右的时候，他开始在学业上出类拔萃。在他13岁的时候获得了一所英国寄宿学校的学业奖学金，这是我第一次怀疑他的智力会超过我。这些年来很多证据都证明了这一点。在ACT考试中，他没有任何的准备却获得了35/36的高分，我就更加确信了他比我聪明。在A-levels考试中他获得5个A*，我并不会感到惊讶了。他都轻而易举地超越了我在学业上所取得的一切成就。

I suspect my reactions were similar to most parents: I was very, very proud of him. But the thing about hyper intelligent kids is they are still kids. They still make mistakes and do stupid stuff the same as other kids simply because they don’t have the life experience. They still need guidance, and they still need parents. Even if your kid grows up to be a lot smarter than you, you still have an important role to fill helping them grow and preparing them for life. Sure, my ability to help him with his schoolwork ended prematurely. But, honestly, that is really only a very small part of raising a child.

我觉得我的反应会和大多数的父母一样，我会为我的儿子感到骄傲，感到非常的自豪。但是不管孩子有多么聪明，我认为他始终是孩子，他仍然和其他的孩子一样。会犯错误。会做傻事，因为他们没有生活经验。所以我认为即使自己的孩子长大后比自己聪明的多，我们仍然在他的生命中扮演重要的角色，他们仍然需要父母的陪伴，需要父母的指导，需要父母帮助他们成长，为他们以后的生活做准备。当然，我们辅导他们做功课的能力提前结束了，但是说实话，辅导孩子做功课，也只是抚养孩子的一小部分而已。

2.1Art Digout
When I attended a meeting to do with my daughter starting in a gifted class, the teacher said “If the average kid can think of ten ways to get into trouble, a really bright kid can think of a hundred ways”. You’re right, they’re still kids.

我女儿在一个天才班级，当我参加他们班级的一个会议时，他们的老师说：“如果一个普通的孩子能想出十种惹麻烦的方法，一个真正聪明的孩子能想出一百种方法。”你是对的，他们仍然是孩子！没事

2.2Amèlie Meaufort
I am not that smart, but I am smarter than parents. They did not get the education I did and when I have kids that will probably be the same. It will probably increase through generations as they get more resources and build upon what their parents know.

我没有那么聪明，但是我比我父母聪明。因为他们没有得到我所受的教育。如果我有了孩子，可能还会是一样的。随着孩子们获得更多的资源，并以父母的知识为基础，这会使的孩子比之前更加聪明。随着几代人的传承会使得孩子更加聪明。

2.3Constance Ricks
Ditto. I'm the parent of an intellectually gifted 19-yr-old. He can philosophize with the best of them, top nearly everyone in trivia questions (except in sports and some popular-culture questions), and get the best grades in class, but his scant life experience and youthful idealism are definite handicaps in handling various issues. His emotions are also more fragile and volatile, making me— the less-intelligent of us two—still a valuable ally when advice is needed. He's a great kid who will futher blossom and be tempered over

我有一个19岁的孩子，他的智力超群，他能够和他们班中最优秀的人进行哲学讨论。在琐碎的问题上（体育和一些流行文化的问题除外）几乎领先于所有人，并且取得全班好的成绩。但是他缺乏生活经验，加上年轻的理想主义，他的情绪更加脆弱和不稳定，这无疑是他处理各种问题的障碍。这使得我们两个人中智商较低的人，也就是我，在他需要建议时仍然是一个很有价值的盟友，他是一个很棒的孩子，将会在不停的磨练中，慢慢的成长！

2.4John Mezzetta
The biggest gift you can give is development of emotional intelligence. Schools don’t promote this and it’s just as important as academic development imho.

你能给孩子最大的礼物就是情商的发展，学校并不教这些。恕我直言，情商的发展和学术发展一样重要

2.4.1Julie Ford
Actually the school I taught in started to promote emotional intelligence in 2005.

实际上，我任教的学校，在2005年就已经开始提高情商了。

3.Jay Valenci
, 60 years of triumphs mixed with some unfortunate events
It's very simple. I knew early on that my 2 children were very smart, but I didn't know how smart until I asked them if they wanted to follow in my footsteps and go to dental school. My daughters response….."No thanks, we don't want to work as hard as you do dad". Today Emily is a data analyst and Andrew is a software engineer. I'm pretty sure they will never have to work nearly as hard as their dad. That's OK with me.

这个问题非常简单呀。我很早就意识到我的两个孩子非常聪明。但是我不知道他们有多聪明，直到我问他们是否愿意像我一样去上牙科学校时，我意识到了我的两个孩子的聪明
我女儿的回答是…“不，谢谢。我们不想像你那样努力工作。爸爸”

现在，Emily是一名数据分析师，Andrew是一名软件工程，我非常确信他们永远都不会像他们的爸爸那样努力工作。我完全可以接受。