貌似正能量的有毒言论盘点【扇贝溯源】

材料来自扇贝（https://web.shanbay.com/reading/web-news/articles/zlqyp）， 出处：https://www.boredpanda.com/toxic-positivity-phrase-reddit/（找了半天才找到）；

网上搜索Examples of Toxic Positivity可以找到相关的更多短文…… 以下为ChatGPT做的双语版本

Very often, when people open up about their problems or negative thoughts they have, the first instinct of the other person is to cheer them up, try to reassure them that everything will work out and that there are worse things that could happen. People who try to make the troubled person feel better don't usually mean any harm, but they actually are forcing positivity on a person that can't see the lighter side of the situation at that moment. 人们经常在打开心扉谈论自己的问题或消极想法时，他人的第一反应是鼓励他们，试图让他们放心，告诉他们一切都会好起来，而且事情会有更糟的。试图让困扰的人感觉更好的人通常并不是有意为之，但实际上他们是在把积极性强加给一个此刻看不到问题好的一面的人。 Dismissing negative emotions, trying to forcefully see something good in a terrible situation and trying to find false reassurances is called toxic positivity. It often becomes a way to respond to a distressful situation when you don't know what else to say. But feeling the emotions that you're having is important, regardless of whether they are positive or negative. 漠视负面情绪，试图强行在糟糕的情况中看到好的一面，以及试图找到虚假的安慰，这被称为有毒的积极性。当你不知道该说些什么时，它通常成为应对困扰性情况的一种方式。但感受你正在经历的情绪是重要的，无论它们是积极的还是消极的。 人们分享了一些他们认为属于有毒积极性类别的短语，并希望别人不要再说。他们希望听到的是同情和祝福。 1. "It all made you stronger." 这种说法让我感到不舒服，因为它无视了我不得不努力克服的所有胡说八道。我让自己变得更坚强。创伤让我变得软弱、疲惫，成为了一个令人厌恶的自己。如果我允许这些控制我的人生结果，我会陷入一个黑暗的地方。我努力奋斗，是我让自己变得坚强。所有那些摧毁我的经历。 2. My grandma telling me that I have to put up with nasty family members "because they're FaaaMilYYYYYyyyy". 我奶奶告诉我，我必须忍受恶劣的家庭成员，因为他们是“FaaaMilYYYYYyyyy”【1】。他们是坏人，我不会让他们毒害我的生活，仅仅因为我们是亲戚。 【1】这里AI直接用了原文，翻译成“他们是你的家人啊” 3. "You don't need medication for depression or anxiety. You just need to go outside and smile more!" “你不需要抑郁或焦虑的药物。你只需要出去多走走，多微笑！”  4. 'you have it much better than other people' “你比其他人过得好多了。” 好吧，我知道这是真的。但我讨厌人们在不了解我的情况下就否定我的经历。 5. "You're really pretty for a chubby girl" Thaaaaaanx. “对一个胖女孩来说，你真的很漂亮。” 谢谢。【1】 【1】“谢！谢你”、“听我说谢谢你”、“我真的会谢” 6. "I just strive to be an honest person. I'm sorry if it hurt you". “我只是努力做一个诚实的人。如果这伤害了你，我很抱歉。” 有些事情真的不该说，行吗？ 7. Why can't you just be happy? 你为什么就不能快乐呢？ 8. Family is meant to hurt and forgive. 家庭就是用来伤害和原谅的。 我认为这是胡扯。 9. "Life will be easier if you just accept that you'll be doing most of the house work"….Ex-boyfriend's mom in response to a conversation about how ex-boyfriend did not help with chores. “如果你接受你将大部分时间做家务，生活会变得更容易”...是前男友的妈妈在回应关于前男友不帮忙做家务的谈话中说的。   10. "Having expectations on relationships only lead to disappointment" “对关系抱有期望只会导致失望。” 那我是不是应该接受他们想怎么对待我就怎么对待我？ 11. "If I can do it, you can do it." “如果我能做到，你也能。”  12. "You are only hurting yourself when you are crying. Look, I'm unaffected." “当你哭泣时，只会伤害到自己。看，我毫不受影响。”  13. "Don't waste your time worrying about it." Sorry but I can't help it. “不要浪费时间担心它。” 对不起，但我控制不了。

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这些言论可能会让人血压升高，当自己遇到它们时请爱自己， 当自己想要说出它们安慰他人的时候，请留意考虑他人的感受而非自己的观点。