所有的话语表达，都指向自我的欠缺

两个自感无所欠缺的人，最终以互相给出自己的欠缺，陷入了爱情。达西以自己对欠缺的掩饰将自己的欠缺给予了伊丽莎白，对欠缺的掩饰恰好就是对伊丽莎白的给予。伊丽莎白之所以狼狈不堪，是因为在面对达西时暴露了自己的欠缺，原本无所欠缺的伊丽莎白也将自己的欠缺暴露或给予了达西。

不能将会饮篇当作哲学来读，而是将其作为文学（戏剧）来读，拉康认为，柏拉图通过会饮篇几乎嘲笑了所有人对爱的看法的嘲笑，对每一个发言人都进行了嘲笑。

Where there is no lack, there can be no desire.

没有欠缺，就没有欲望，没有欲望，就没有爱。

没有任何事物能够填补无穷无尽的空洞或欠缺。

want本意是欠缺，因为欠缺，所以想要。

Desire aspires to make good this lack, to compensate for it. And each desire for something new is but the continuation and displacement of the selfsame desire stemming from the same old lack; this is what allows Lacan to qualify the ceaseless unfolding and multiplication of human desires as the “metonymy of the want-to-be,” as the continual displacement of the lack in being brought about by castration, wrought by our alienation in language and loss of jouissance. Each new “I want” is linked to this original lack by a shorter or longer series of displacements (or metonymic shifts)

围绕着欲望旋转的过程中，人获得了pleasure，但这种pleasure转瞬即逝。穿透象征界，直达实在的，是死亡。所谓的死本能，是我们穿越象征界，直接拥抱物的欲望。

Now this lack is precious to us. What we gave up defines us, we feel. It goes to the heart of our perceived individuality, to the core of our “subjective difference” – that is, to the core of what makes us different from everyone else.

一般来说，是人所拥有的东西定义了人。

但拉康反其意而行之，正是人所欠缺、失去的东西定义了人。

对欠缺的掩饰，是将自我的欠缺给予对方，也是爱的开始。

爱上某个人，就是向那个人传达我的欠缺，正是那个人与我的欠缺紧密关联。爱上某人，就是用语言告诉对方我有欠缺。爱从来都是一个话语。这种语言不一定是诉诸于口语和文字，身体的行动也是一种语言。我们必须用语言揭示我们的欠缺，且我们的欠缺必然与被爱者相关。

We may be protective, not wishing to show we feel lacking in any way, that we need anybody, that we are castrated.

To love is to admit to lack.

去爱就是去承认自我的欠缺。当男人陷入爱情的时候，他就变成了一个女人。人类所有的言语都是对欠缺的表达，说话就是表达你的欠缺。正因为有所欠缺，人才会说话。

By declaring our love – articulating it aloud in words to our beloved – we give our lack. We declare ourselves to be missing something, to be lacking in being, to be wanting in something at the core of our very being; and yet we manage to thereby bestow being and a feeling of fullness on our partner. In this way, we give the gift of what we do not have.

你所说的任何话语，都在表达一种欠缺，都在要求你所欠缺的某种东西。所有的话语，就表明有所欠缺，通过言语要求你所欠缺之物。