【龙腾网】你怎么知道一个人是否成熟？

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How do you know if someone is mature or not? 

你怎么知道一个人是否成熟？

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1. A mature person doesn't try to change other people.

1. 一个成熟的人不会试图去改变别人。

2. A mature person knows that things will never be able to cause your happiness.

2. 一个成熟的人知道物质永远不会让你幸福。

3. When you desire self-reliance above dependence on your parents or others, you are maturing.

3. 当你渴望自力更生而不是依赖父母或其他人时，你就成熟了。

4. Someone who is mature knows how to prioritize.

4. 成熟的人知道如何区分优先次序。

They have learned that not every single thing in their life has equal priority.

他们已经认识到，生活中并不是每一件事情都有同等的优先权。

5. Life isn't nearly as simple as the immature person thinks it is.

5. 生活并不像不成熟的人想象的那么简单。

6. You have reached a level of maturity when you stop judging others.

6. 当你停止评判别人的时候，你已经达到了一个成熟的水平。

The mature person realizes that all of us have different experiences, different advantages, different upbringings, different everything! Another's 'right' could be wrong for them, but perfectly right for the other person. You should respect another's opinion even if you disagree with them. Learning to agree to disagree is a very telling sign of maturity.

成熟的人意识到我们每个人都有不同的经历，不同的优势，不同的成长环境，不同的一切！另一个人的正确可能对他们来说是错误的，但对另一个人来说却是完全正确的。你应该尊重别人的意见，即使你不同意他们的意见。学会同意不同意是成熟的一个非常明显的标志。

If you've done everything possible to change a situation, repeatedly failed, and know you did your best, then let it go. Beating your head against a brick wall results in a massive headache and nothing more.

如果你已经做了一切可能的事情来改变一个情况，一次又一次的失败，并且知道你已经尽力了，那么就让它过去吧。用你的头去撞砖墙只会导致严重的头痛，仅此而已。

9. Mature individuals have stopped seeking the approval of others.

9. 成熟的人已经不再寻求他人的认可。

This is HUGE. It is, of course, nice to receive recognition for something you've done well. Say "Thank you" and let it go at that. If you begin depending on others' approval, you'll find you lose your identity by trying to please others instead of yourself. You will be more concerned with aligning your actions thoughts with others, knowing it will be more acceptable and praiseworthy. You will lose your authenticity.

这是巨大的。当然，因为你做得很好而得到认可是件好事。说声“谢谢” ，然后就让它过去吧。如果你开始依赖别人的认可，你会发现你会因为试图取悦别人而不是取悦自己而失去自己的身份。你会更关心自己的行为与他人的想法保持一致，因为你知道这样做会更容易被接受，更值得赞扬。你会失去你的真实性。

10. Lose any expectations you have.

10. 不要抱有任何期望。

11. Stopping comparisons to other people is a sign you are mature.

11. 停止与他人比较是你成熟的标志。

12. When you realize what you see onscreen isn't how Life actually is, you have matured.

12. 当你意识到你在屏幕上看到的并不是真实的生活，你已经成熟了。

Skye Fulcher
They see beyond first impressions and always know that there’s far more to a person than meets the eye. Everyone has their own story and they aren’t quick to judge someone until they feel they know them.They know themselves. They know what’s good for them and they know what isn’t so good to have in their lives. They understand what makes them thrive and what drags them down. They forgive themselves if they fuck up from time to time too.

他们的眼光超越了第一印象，并且总是知道一个人远不止是眼见为实。每个人都有自己的故事，他们不会轻易评判别人，直到他们觉得自己了解他们。他们了解自己。他们知道什么对他们有好处，什么对他们的生活不好。他们明白什么使他们兴旺，什么使他们落魄。如果他们时不时地搞砸了，他们也会原谅自己。

They probably don’t gossip or, if they do listen to gossip, they are hesitant to bad-mouth someone who isn’t there to defend themselves. They know that problems are better faced head on.They know they have their weaknesses and strengths and play to them. That’s not to say they don’t seek self-improvement, but they know what comes naturally to them and what they find more difficult.

他们可能不爱八卦，或者，如果他们真的听八卦的话，他们会犹豫是否去说那些不在场不能为自己辩护的人的坏话。他们知道面对问题更好。他们知道他们有自己的弱点和长处，并且利用这些弱点和长处。这并不是说他们不追求自我提升，但是他们知道什么是自然而然的，什么是他们觉得比较困难的。

They are appreciative of everything and don’t lose sight of the most important things. Their family and friends, having a house, food in the fridge, a bed to sleep in etc. Most things else are a bonus and they try to remain humble and grounded.They ask for advice when they need it and they give advice when they feel someone else will benefit from it. They aren’t afraid to admit they don’t know or understand something, and vice versa they don’t judge or demean others for not knowing something.

他们对一切都充满感激，不会忽视最重要的事情。他们的家人和朋友，有房子，冰箱里有食物，有床睡觉等等。其他大多数事情都是额外的奖励，他们努力保持谦逊和脚踏实地。当他们需要建议的时候，他们会寻求建议;当他们觉得别人会从中受益的时候，他们会给出建议。他们不怕承认自己不知道或不理解某些事情，反之亦然，他们不会因为别人不知道某些事情而评判或贬低他们。

They know that ultimately they are the only ones who can really trust and love themselves. They can’t expect anyone to fill a hole in their life or give them the fulfillment and happiness they need. When they get into a relationship, they’ll continue with the passions and interests they have and share that life with someone else. What attracts them to another person is someone who also has a life of their own, with their unique dreams and interests.They aren’t extremists. A mature person won’t starve themselves because they’ve gained weight or give up on something after one setback. They face reality and understand that changes take time and patience to happen.

他们知道最终只有他们才能真正信任和爱自己。他们不能指望任何人来填补他们生活中的一个空洞，或者给他们他们需要的满足和幸福。当他们开始一段关系时，他们会继续他们所拥有的激情和兴趣，并与其他人分享这种生活。吸引他们的是那些拥有自己的生活，拥有独特梦想和兴趣爱好的人。他们不是极端分子。一个成熟的人不会因为体重增加或者在一次挫折后放弃而饿死自己。他们面对现实，明白改变需要时间和耐心。

They try to see the bigger picture. A bad day is just one bad day. The problem is if it starts becoming bad weeks and bad months.They are resourceful with their time, money and energy. They know that everything they do now is an investment for the future, so they try to avoid their life getting repetitive or becoming stubborn. If it starts becoming like this, then they seek to change it. As well - they know the importance of money, so they spend it and save for things they really want and know the value of. They also don’t expend vast amounts of energy into something that isn’t worth their while.

他们试图看到更大的图景。糟糕的一天只是糟糕的一天。问题是，如果它开始变成糟糕的星期和糟糕的月份。他们善于利用时间、金钱和精力。他们知道他们现在所做的一切都是对未来的投资，所以他们尽量避免生活重复或变得固执。如果开始变成这样，他们就会寻求改变。同样的，他们知道金钱的重要性，所以他们花钱，存钱买他们真正想要的东西，并且知道金钱的价值。他们也不会把大量的精力花费在不值得他们花费时间的事情上。

They may be mature in some ways, but they always stay in touch with their inner child. They know life is fleeting, so they don’t take everything too seriously. They keep their child-like curiosity and crave experiences that feed their mind and soul.They’re careful with what they say, and also what they choose not to say. That’s not to say mature people don’t ever say the wrong things or don’t get into arguments - but a mature person knows that it’s not worth getting mad over stupid things. It’s not worth the hurt and pain, so they seek to always settle things and get peace.

他们可能在某些方面比较成熟，但是他们总是和他们内心的孩子保持联系。他们知道生命是短暂的，所以他们不会把每件事都看得太严肃。他们保持着孩子般的好奇心，渴望能够满足他们思想和灵魂的经历。他们对自己说的话和选择不说的话都很谨慎。这并不是说成熟的人不会说错话或者不会争吵，但是一个成熟的人知道不值得为愚蠢的事情生气。不值得为此付出伤害和痛苦，所以他们总是寻求解决问题并获得和平。

They remember the past but they don’t live in it. The mature people I know fondly remember people they used to love, the old car they used to drive, the house they once lived in etc….but what makes someone mature is that for them it’s like a box they open from time to time, then shut away for a while. They know whilst nostalgia can be a beautiful thing, you shouldn’t sacrifice your present for your past.

他们记得过去，但是他们不住在过去。我认识的成熟的人深情地记得他们曾经爱过的人，他们曾经开过的旧车，他们曾经住过的房子等等... ...但是让一个人成熟的是，对他们来说，它就像一个盒子，他们不时打开，然后关闭一段时间。他们知道，虽然怀旧是一件美好的事情，但你不应该为了过去而牺牲现在。