怎样谈一场长久且稳定的恋爱？

If we stop admiring our lovers, it is chief for one reason.Becuase we are, at some level,furious.Anger destroys admiration.

不再或者是停止爱一个人的主因是来自我们对爱人各种程度上的愤怒。而愤怒会摧毁爱慕。

1st.Somewhere deep inside. we grow inhibited by trace memories of certain letdowns,large and small,of which they have been guilty.in simple term, our "tiny feeling" without their attention.

在我们内心深处，我们被那些他们都有过错的无论大小的令人失望的记忆所束缚。简单来说就是他们不重视我们的"微小感受".

2nd.Every little mistake was not,on its own,necessarily always particularly serious but taken together,a succession of minor disappointments can acquire a terrible capacity to dampen and ultimately destory love.

每一个小问题单拎出来不致命，但是连续不断失望则会产生严重的破坏力然后削弱并最终埋葬爱情。

3rd.We should allow for regular occassions when each person can --without encountering opposition--ask the other to listen to stories of incidents, large or small,in which they felt down or frustrate of late.

应该定期允许双方有机会-在没有遇到反对的情况下-向对方讲述最近让他们感到失望或沮丧的事件，无论这些事件是大是小。

4th.To complain in love is a noble and honourable skill. Quickly raised complaints is that their function is positive（personly the complaint is presenting emotion, good mood is encourge， bad mood is reduce).

在爱情中，抱怨是一项高尚而值得尊敬的技巧。准确快速地提出抱怨其作用是积极的（个人感觉这里的抱怨应该是表示情绪，因为好情绪意味着鼓舞，坏情绪意味着减轻消退）。

5th.Honesty is a love-preserving mechanism that keeps alive all that is impressive and delightful about our partner in our eyes.

真诚才是爱情持久的保鲜剂，能够使一颦一笑皆是情，一顾一盼皆有意。后面的我就不认可了，理论上讲谈恋爱就是一种感觉，如果这种感觉能被说出来且能被定义，说实话这不是谈恋爱而是正常交朋友。