【熟/Love who】给INTJ的十二条建议(12 Rules for Lif
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2/ Be enercy efficient
Energy is the second most important resource next to time. 'waste their time on pointless things and at the same time complaining not getting enough things done."
3/ Be intentional w/ people.
"...don't proceed w/ enough purpose or rational. " It's ok to be this way
4/ Ground patterns in data
...good at connect the dots and observe the patterns.
...for many people and types, they don't think about the world in this way. They aren't natually looking for patterns, trends, try to read the lines, see the big picture of make these connections between things.
-> this is your natural gift.
5/ Gain independence through service.
-> consulting is a career track worth pursuing: 只需要look for pattern and see the big picture，剩下重复性强人际关系强的执行工作可以交给甲方。
6/ Everything is a lesson.
B/c INTJs aren't offended or insulted, so the edge of INTJs is to analyse, dissecting and understanding the reasons for each failture while others are.
所以不要快速离开当前情况，留出buffer time总结经验。尤其是团队proj。自省可以少一点。
7/Leap first
...forgot how randomly we ended up in these situations, it's not linear
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- 接受随机性，并非每个因会得到一个果，放下对已经预计好的走向track的执着 -->享受过程。
- 有太多随机变量->无法做到fully prepared for things to happen。只要认为应该发生，那么应该采取行动，而不是继续scheming和planning
- 优势是take control of the chaos。planning并非是only strength，所以 "throw themselves into situations that are chaotic/uncertain/uncomfortable”可以激发此种潜力，而且解决随机变量的问题。06:58
- INTJs are sometimes optimizer, they can sometimes get stuck at local maximums. shake things up and take a leap07:04
- 所以实际上最有效率的approach是最大化两个traits。因为
- 有非常多的随机变量是我无法plan：leap in first
- 我可以take control of the chaos and local maximize things: 在已经跳进去之后我可以持续优化。'bring the Ni back in"
8/Style is the gateway to substance
They are people who want very much to be authentic ->你不需要那么“真诚”。是可以做一些表面的工作的。this is the paradoxical part of yourself that can be handeled.
9/ Avoid isolation at all cost.
it's better to be surrounded by people you find stupid than to be isolated!!!! ...conteracts many of the dangers INTJs might encounter, such as delaying taking actions
...forcing yourself to be around people isn't pleasant all the time but it's important!! Staying contact with the humans b/c they can be useful sometimes!!!!
10/ There're no stupid people.
与其只是觉得他们很蠢，不如借机训练自己see the logic underneath (though they might have no logic:)))
11/ Avoid sensory indulgence and rage.
results of stress.所以解决焦虑可以很好的解决，解法即：
- 和自然相处
- 和人相处
- 减少完美主义, leap in first
12/ Prioritize experience over achievement
everything is an experience, that's true!!! But I'm talking here about things that experience is the primary focus.
