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42.Hopeless romantic

Hopeless romantic refers to someone who tends to maintain a utopian, sentimental perspective on love regardless of negative past experiences. They enjoy the business of spoiling, caring for and thinking about their beloved. It puts them on high to do thoughtful things for their boo and see the happiness that results. Therefore, they are viewed as hopeless because it seems like they keep remaining optimistic in the face of all evidence to the contrary.

Romance is always put on a pedestal.

You need to learn how to be healthy on your own before you are in love with someone. No one can fix you, at most they might be able to help you help yourself.

Your worth does not come from another human.

I tend to view life partner as someone we fight monsters and demons with throughout my life, who can function separately from me,  but choose to function with me instead.

There’s nothing wrong with being a hopeless romantic. The problem with being a hopeless romantic comes from a lack of awareness of being yourself. If you’re someone who falls hard for whoever you’re dating from the beginning, frankly all you want is instant gratification and quick results. As soon as there is evidences that this isn’t the fairy tale that you envision, you typically leave the relationship prematurely.

However if you’re aware of your default mindset and can keep it in check enough to let things naturally unfold, you can be a romantic without being hopeless.

Utopian: modelled on or aiming for a state in which everything is perfect; idealistic; unrealistic

 Eg: a utopian vision/ a utopian society/ utopian ideals

put sth/sb on a pedestal: to admire sth/sb so much that you treat them or talk about them as though thay are perfect.

Premature: happening or done too son, esp. before the natural or suitable time.