【TED】How to stop languishing and start finding flow？
1 内容提炼
Languishing is a sense of emptiness, stagnation and ennui. You’re indifferent to your own indifference, which means you don't seek help and you might not even do anything to help yourself.
Researchers found that the best predictor of well-being was not optimism. It was flow. Flow is that feeling of being in the zone. It's that state of total absorption in an activity. For you, it might be cooking or running or gardening where you lose track of time and you might even lose your sense of self.
Adam's Mario Kart theory of peak flow:
It has three conditions: mastery, mindfulness and mattering
1. Mastery is something a lot of us have been having a hard time finding lately. Psychologists find that at work the strongest factor in daily motivation and joy is a sense of progress.
2. That kind of mastery depends on a second condition for flow, mindfulness. Focusing your full attention on a single task.
3. Now, mastery and mindfulness will get you to flow, but there's a third condition that turns it into a peak experience. Mattering. Knowing that you make a difference to other people.
2 生词扫盲
- stagnation [stæɡˈneɪʃ(ə)n] n. 停滞
- ennui [ɑnˈwi] n. 倦怠；无聊
- scrabble [ˈskræb(ə)l] n.(乱)扒；争夺；挣扎；拼字游戏 v. 忙乱地找；翻找；乱抓；乱动
- binge [bɪndʒ] v. 大吃大喝；狂欢作乐
- immortalize [ɪˈmɔrt(ə)lˌaɪz] v. 使名垂千古
- muddle [ˈmʌd(ə)l] v. 混淆；弄乱；搅混；使困惑 n. 混乱；糊涂；困惑；茫然
- windshield [ˈwɪn(d)ˌʃild] n. 风挡；（摩托车等前面的）挡风玻璃
- anguish [ˈæŋɡwɪʃ] n. 痛苦
- chronic [ˈkrɑnɪk] adj. 长期的；慢性的
- languish [ˈlæŋɡwɪʃ] n. 憔悴；萎靡
- groundhog [ˈɡraʊndˌhɔɡ] n.〔工〕挖土机；土拨鼠
- utter [ˈʌtər] adj. 完全的；十足的；彻底的
- bliss [blɪs] n. 极乐；幸福
- blah [blɑ] adj. 乏味的；不舒服；闷闷不乐
- dampen [ˈdæmpən] v. 抑制；弄湿；使潮湿
- lurk [lɜrk] v. 潜伏；（不好或危险的事）潜在；
- dwindle [ˈdwɪnd(ə)l] v. 减少；变瘦；衰落；退化
- reminisce [ˌremɪˈnɪs] v. 回忆
- gloat [ɡloʊt] v. 幸灾乐祸；沾沾自喜；扬扬得意
- impending [ɪmˈpendɪŋ] adj. 即将发生的；迫在眉睫的
- mastery [ˈmæstəri] n. 精通；控制；熟练掌握；驾驭
- loaf [loʊf] n. (一)条；一条面包（通常重 1、2、4磅）；面包形糖块；混日子
- thrilled [θrɪld] adj. 非常兴奋；极为激动
- sourdough [ˈsaʊrˌdoʊ] n. 酸面团；发面面包
- confetti [kənˈfeti] n. （在婚礼或美国其他特殊活动中撒的）五彩纸屑
- shred [ʃred] **n.** （撕或切的）细条；极少量；些许；一丁点 **v.**切碎；撕碎
- spike [spaɪk] v. 用尖物刺入（或扎破）；在…中偷偷掺入（烈酒、毒药或毒品）
- fundraising [ˈfʌndˌreɪziŋ] n. 筹款；资金筹集
- alumnus [əˈlʌmnəs] n. 毕业生
- monotonous [məˈnɑt(ə)nəs] adj. 单调乏味的
- tuition [tuˈɪʃ(ə)n] n. 指导；（尤指大专院校的）学费
- peel [pil] n. 果皮；（某些水果、蔬菜的）外皮 v. 剥落；去皮；脱落；剥掉
- gang [ɡæŋ] v. 〈英〉去；把…编成班组；〈口〉合伙攻击；使成套
- immerse [ɪˈmɜrs] v. 使浸没于；（使）深陷于
- antidote [ˈæntɪˌdoʊt] n. 解毒药；解毒剂；
- muster [ˈmʌstər] v. 集合；找寻；赶拢（牛、羊）
- upbeat [ˈʌpˌbit] adj. 乐观的；快乐的；积极向上的
3 好句赏析
- That people who are randomly assigned to count more blessings, are actually, on average, less happy because you start to run out of things to be optimistic about.
- I learned that love is not the frequency of communication, it's the depth of connections.
- I also realized that the antidote to languishing does not have to be something productive, it can be something joyful.
- Our peak moments of flow are having fun with the people we love, which is now a daily task on my to-do list.
- I think we need to rethink our understanding of mental health and well-being.
- Not depressed doesn't mean you're not struggling. Not burned out doesn't mean you're fired up.
- When someone says, "How are you?," it's OK to say, "Honestly, I'm languishing." Or if you can only muster one syllable, "Meh." And when you're ready, you can start finding the flow that lights a path out of the void.
【拓展链接】
2. https://dailyasianage.com/news/260034/theres-a-name-for-the-blah-youre-feeling--its-called-languishing
