【龙腾网】坠入爱河是什么感觉

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What does falling in love feel like?

坠入爱河是什么感觉

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Riddhima Gupta
This is real, this is me
"Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life."

以下所说的都是真的，说的就是我自己的感受。
“我真的相信，在你的一生中，有且只有一次，你能找到一个能彻底改变你的世界的人。你会告诉他一些之前从未与另一个灵魂分享过的事情，他会吸收你所说的一切，并希望听到更多。你们对未来抱有希望，梦想永远不会实现，目标也一直未实现，生活给你们带来许多失望。当一些美妙的事情发生时，你迫不及待地想告诉他，你知道他会分享你的喜悦。当你受伤的时候，他不会羞于和你一起哭泣；当你出丑的时候，他也不会和你一起尴尬地笑。他永远不会伤害你的感情，或者让你觉得自己不够好，相反他会让你振作起来，让你看到能够使你与众不同甚至美丽的东西。当他在身边时，你们之间从来没有任何压力，嫉妒或竞争，只有平静。你可以做你自己，不必担心他会怎么看你，因为他和你之间充满爱，对大多数人来说微不足道的东西，比如一张纸条、一首歌、一次散步，都会成为珍贵的宝藏，永远珍藏在你心中。你童年的记忆又回来了，清晰而生动，就像又回到了年轻时代。颜色看起来更明亮，更鲜艳。笑声似乎是日常生活的一部分，在此之前笑声很少或根本不存在。一天中打一两个电话可以帮助你度过一天漫长的工作，并且总能让你面带微笑。在他的陪伴下，没有必要进行持续的交谈，你会发现只要有他在身边你就很满足了。以前你不感兴趣的事情开始变得迷人，因为你知道它们对他很重要。你在任何场合和你做的每件事上都会想到这个人。简单的事情会人想起淡蓝色的天空，轻柔的风，甚至是地平线上的暴风云。你敞开心扉，知道有一天它可能会破碎，在敞开心扉的过程中，你会体验到一种你做梦都想不到的爱和喜悦。你会发现，脆弱是让你的心感受到真正快乐的唯一途径，这种快乐是如此真实以至于让你害怕。当你知道你有一个真正的朋友，或者可能是一个终其一生的灵魂伴侣，你就会得到力量。生活似乎完全不同，令人兴奋。你唯一的希望和安全感在于知道他是你生活的一部分。”
Megan Laudenslager, studies Nursing at Alvernia University (2022) 在阿尔韦尼亚大学学习护理（2022年）

All this time I had no clue that he might have feelings for me back. He was really sweet to every girl, so I thought I was no different.
Fast forward until after Winter Break. I finally mustered up the courage to break up with my boyfriend. At the same time, my friendship was really starting to blossom with this guy. It turned out that he actually had feelings for me as well, but we continued to be friends because I had just gotten out of my relationship.

一直以来我都不知道他会不会对我有感情。他对每个女孩都很好，所以我觉得我也一样。
快进到寒假过后。我终于鼓起勇气和男朋友分手了。同时，我和这个人的友谊也开始发展。事实证明，他对我也有感情，但我们仍然是朋友，因为我刚刚摆脱了恋爱关系。

Let me share my story..I used to run away from love..I used to despise people who were in love..I used to sulk from within seeing couples holding hands in public yet I wished I could do the same..and then suddenly this girl comes to our flat where 4 of us guys used to stay..she was a friend of my roommate..that night we partied..we had fun..we danced and sang..we drank and smoked. .by midnight we were all exhausted. .all of us went to sleep..but I couldnt sleep..I kept tossing in my bed..and then she comes out and sits in the alleyway alone oblivious to the fact that I was there..she just sat there..lost in her thoughts. .I wondered why..but I didn't say a word..I went upto her and sat next to her..for the next three hours we sat beside each other without exchanging a single word..the silence gave us comfort. .to both of us..we just sat there giving each other company...both of us had troubled pasts..dark pasts..things which we couldnt forget yet could never share to anyone. .last week we celebrated our first anniversary of being in love, of being together..ours was a long distance relationship. .we made it work..we fought, we shouted at each other, we loved each other..yet we stayed together. .the distance made our love stronger. .made us realise its importance. .taught us the lesson that love transcends all barriers and keeps burning in your heart if you want it to.. all you need is a sincere effort...

我分享下我的故事，我曾经逃避爱情，我曾经鄙视恋爱中的人，我曾经因为看到情侣们在公共场合牵手而生闷气，但我希望我也能做同样的事情。然后一个女孩突然来到我们的公寓，我们四个人曾经住在那里。她是我室友的朋友，那天晚上我们聚会，唱歌跳舞，抽烟喝酒，玩得很开心。到了午夜，我们都筋疲力尽了，都睡着了，但我睡不着，一直在床上辗转反侧。突然发现她出来独自坐在走廊里，完全不知道我也在那里。她只是坐在那里，沉浸在她的思绪中。我想知道为什么，但我一句话也没说，我走到她身边，坐在她旁边。接下来的三个小时里，我们坐在一起，一句话也没说，沉默给了我们安慰。对我们俩来说，我们只是坐在那里互相陪伴，我们都有过不愉快、黑暗的过去，都有那些我们无法忘记却永远无法分享给任何人的事情。上周我们庆祝了我们相爱一周年，我们是异地恋。我们深爱过，我们争吵过，我们互相喊叫过，我们彼此相爱，一直在一起。距离让我们的爱更加强烈，让我们意识到它的重要性，教会我们爱可以超越一切障碍，只要你愿意，它会在你的心中一直燃烧。你需要的只是真诚的努力。
Peter Tanczos, Health & Safety Consultant at Various, Consultant (2004-present) 许多机构的健康与安全顾问（2004年至今）

There are many types of love, there are also a few types of being/falling in love. There's an Italian saying (according to a couple of films) about having 3 great loves in your life. There's the "lightning bolt" where from the moment you first see that person you know.....and that feeling is reciprocated. In my case that was eyes meeting from across a nightclub dance floor and the next second we were glued to each other. This is also known as " the love that looks right" and usually happens early in life, the fairytale romantic love. There's another feeling very similar to the lightning bolt where you just know but the other person doesn't appear to reciprocate so you go through some kind of elaborate mating ritual that ends in success. This kind of relationship doesn't often last , especially if your partner is just not that into you. This can also be called "the love you wished was right". It's usually associated with the rollercoaster of passion, great when it's good, awful when it isn't. With this kind of love, trying to make it work becomes more important than whether it actually should. You can fall in love with someone when the more you get to know them, the more in love you become. This can often be how friendships turn into romance. It's often called "the love that just feels right". It's not planned for and often not expected. You just seem to fit. there aren’t any ideal expectations about how each person should be acting, nor is there pressure to become someone other than we are. We are just simply accepted for who we are already—and it shakes to our core. This is the love that keeps knocking on our door regardless of how long it takes us to answer. You suddenly wake up one day realising you're in love. Eventually all loves transition from being in love into loving. Sometimes you grow and develop together, sometimes you end up growing apart (nobody's fault). Sometimes I wonder if monogamous relationships are mostly doomed (or at least fail more often than they succeed) because of the unreal expectations we put on our partners. Who really can have it all? For me, a partner, a good mother for my children, confidante and sex goddess is too much to put on one persons shoulders. But back to the original question, falling in love is usually exquisite and painful simultaneously.

爱有多种类型，坠入爱河的方式同样如此。意大利有句俗语（根据几部电影）讲的是在你的一生中有三种伟大的爱。从第一次见到的那一刻起，你就有“闪电”般的感觉，并且这种感觉是相互的。我这有个例子，那是在夜总会舞池，我和对面的眼神突然相遇，下一秒我们就彼此粘在了一起。这也被称为“看起来是正确的爱情”，并且通常是发生在人生早期的童话般的浪漫爱情。还有一种感觉和闪电非常相似，但对方似乎没有回应，所以你要精心设计一次偶遇，最后以成功告终。这种关系通常不会持久，尤其是当你的伴侣对你不那么感兴趣的时候。这也可以称为“希望是正确的爱情”。它通常与激情的过山车联系在一起，好的时候很好，不好的时候很糟糕。在这种爱情里，努力让它发挥作用比它是否真的应该存在更重要。当你越了解一个人，你就越能爱上他。这往往是友谊变成爱情的方式。它常被称为“感觉上是正确的爱情”。这不是计划好的，通常也没有预料到。只是似乎适合你。对于每个人应该如何表现，没有任何理想的期望，也没有改变自我的压力。我们只是简单的接受我们已经是谁，它动摇了我们的核心。这就是爱，它不停地敲着我们的门，不管我们需要多长时间去回应。直到有一天你突然醒来意识到你恋爱了。最终，所有的爱都会从恋爱转变成爱。也许你们会一起成长和发展，也许你们最终会分开（不是任何人的错）。有时我想知道，一夫一妻制的关系是否注定要失败（或者至少失败的次数多于成功的次数），因为我们对伴侣寄予了不切实际的期望。谁真的能拥有一切？对我来说，一个好伴侣不可能同时是一个孩子的好母亲，红颜知己和性爱女神。但回到最初的问题，坠入爱河通常是既精致又痛苦的。
James Zhu, Always feel hungry 总是觉得饿

Secret love is no different from any other love. But it seems it has been neglected here. So I am going to give a perspective of secret love.
This is the only experience of mine by far to feel what love is.Though it was a long time ago, everytime I recall it, it feels so sweet that I can't believe she has been away from my life for years. Though I had never got up the courage to confess my love to her and she probably just took me as a ordinary friend all the time, still I am always grateful to her for making me know what love feels like.

暗恋和其他爱情没有什么不同。但它似乎被忽视了。所以我要提供一个关于暗恋的观点。
这是我迄今为止唯一能感受到爱是什么的经历。尽管那是很久以前的事，但每次我回想起来，它都是如此的甜蜜，以至于我不敢相信她已经离开我的生活很多年了。虽然我从未鼓起勇气向她表白我的爱，她可能一直把我当成普通朋友而已，但我始终感激她让我知道了爱的滋味。

1.Before meeting her, you never believed people would fall in love at first sight. You think it is nothing but a stupid theory.How could one love the other without knowing what kind of background she comes from and what kind of personality she has. It's too shallow to love someone just because of her looks. But the moment you see her, you start to believe that kind of thing really exists. You can't tell exactly how, but some traits of her just attract you in a mysteious way.

在遇见她之前，从不相信会存在一见钟情。认为这只是个愚蠢的理论。一个人怎么能在不知道背景以及拥有什么样个性的情况下爱上另一个人呢。仅仅因为外表而爱上一个人太肤浅了吧。但一见到她，就开始相信那种事真的存在。无法不能确切地说是怎么回事，但她的一些特质却以一种神秘的方式吸引着你。

2. You want to get her attention,but you feel she is way out of your league, so you just watch her in distance.
You start to know more about her, what songs she loves to listen to, what's her favourite book. You have to be well-disguised so that no one else would notice. You are pretty much aware that you are putting yourself at risk, but you don't care. Every information of her means so much to you that you want find out everthing in common between you. And the more you know about her, the more you are sure she is the one.

你想引起她的注意，但你觉得她与你格格不入，所以你就远远地看着她。
你开始了解她，她喜欢听什么歌，最喜欢的书是什么。你必须伪装得很好，这样别人就不会注意到你了。你很清楚自己在冒险，但你不在乎。她的每一个信息对你来说都很重要，你想找出你之间的共同点。你对她的了解越多，你就越确信她就是那个人。

3.You casually mention her name in front of your friend to see what their impression is on her. When they say good words about her, you are wild with joy. For a moment, you want to share with them. But on second thought, you hold it back.You don't want to give it away before telling her in person.

你在朋友面前随便提一下她的名字，看看他们对她的印象如何。当他们说她好话时，你欣喜若狂。有那一瞬间，你想和他们分享。但转念一想，你忍住了。你不想在当面告诉她之前就泄露出去。

4.Whenever you see she talking to other guys, you feel you heart is broken, and you world is shattered. You are not in mood for anything. You spend the whole class thinking about what they were talking and what kind of relationship they might have. When it turns out not the way you thought it was, you feel your world is filled with light again.

每当你看到她和其他男生说话，你会觉得你的心碎了，你的世界破碎了。你做什么都没心情。你整节课都在想他们在说什么，他们可能会有什么样的关系。当结果不是你想象的那样，你会觉得你的世界又充满了光明。

5.When your teacher arrange you to sit behind her(It's kinda a unique culture in my country), you think here comes the chance. At first, you are too shy to start a conversation with her, but you never expected she would talk to you first. You suppress your excitement and try to talk with a normal tone while you are ecstatic deep in heart.

当你的老师安排你坐在她身后（这在我国是一种独特的文化），你认为机会来了。一开始，你很害羞，不敢和她交谈，但你没想到她会先跟你说话。当你在内心深处狂喜的时候，只能抑制住自己的兴奋，试着用正常的语调说话。

6.You try your best to satisy every need of her. You don't want to disappoint her in any way. You want every words you say up to be perfect, but you don't realize it is a bit wierd and funny to her. When you see her smile, you think it must because you did a good job.

你尽力满足她的每一个需要。你无论如何都不想让她失望。你希望你说的每一句话都是完美的，但你没有意识到这对她来说有点奇怪和有趣。当你看到她的微笑时，你认为一定是因为你做得很好。

7. As time goes by, you and she becomes more and more close. You can even make jokes about each other now and then. You cautiously express you love in the hope that she might get it. But you don't want it seems too obvious, because you are afraid it might mean nothing to her.

随着时间的流逝，你和她越来越亲近。你甚至可以时不时地拿对方开玩笑。你小心翼翼地表达你的爱，希望她能感受到。但你不想让它看起来太明显，因为你害怕这对她来说毫无意义。

8. In a blx of an eye, you are about to graduate. You know you probably wouldn't see her again in your whole life. After days of hesititation, you decide not to tell her. Some words may just remain unsaid.

转眼间，你就要毕业了。你知道你可能一辈子都见不到她了。犹豫了几天之后，你决定不告诉她。有些话可能就是不必说出口。

9.After that day, you think of her occasionally. You think to yourself that would it make a difference if you told her that day?

那天过后，你偶尔会想起她。你问自己，如果那天告诉她，会有什么不同吗？

Thank this question for bringing back the old sweet memories.

感谢这个问题让我想起了过去美好的回忆。