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Why am I so angry about not having a very high IQ (mine is 85) and I envy those who have it high?

我的智商是85，为什么我会对自己没有高智商感到生气，为什么我会嫉妒那些高智商的人？

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All that said, there is still a part of me that is envious. I want to be the best I can be, and it hurts to realize that I’m a painfully slow learner. I have extreme difficulty with numbers, and I get frustrated when I cannot fully grasp certain concepts. Sometimes I must review complicated things multiple times, and I get confused easily. I start to hate myself for being so stupid. I also get tricked easily.

说了这么多，不得不承认我非常羡慕他们拥有很强的学习能力，我想成为最好的自己，而意识到我的学习速度就是很慢，这是很痛苦的。我对数字极度不敏感，我会因为没办法完全掌握某些概念时感到沮丧。有时，我对一个复杂的事情要反复做很多次，并经常感到困惑。于是我就非常讨厌自己怎么这么蠢，我还很容易被骗。

To be honest with you, these are minor problems that I have. there are other issues that are more important. For example, I have never learned to work hard at school. I have been a class topper for 8 years and without really working hard for it. You might think that it’s perfect but you must know that at some point in your life you need to work hard in order to achieve certain goals. I know my dream is to become a doctor and I know that I’m talented enough to do it but I have had a lot of troubles with it and have not been able to become a med student after 4 years of trying.

说实话，这都是小问题，还有其他问题，举个例子，我在学校从来没有努力学习过，但8年来，我在学校成绩一直名列前茅，但是其实我没有付出过任何努力，你可能觉得这非常好啊，但是你应该知道，人生的某些目标是需要努力才能实现的。我非常清楚我的梦想是成为一个医生，我也知道我自己可以做到，但是我在成为医科学生的路上遇到了很多困难，4年过去了，我还没有成为一名医科学生。

You see, they say that we humans avoid anything that threatens our identity. So because being smart is my identity, anything that threatens it can frighten me and make me back away from it. Studying can be a good example of this matter. I have the ability to learn any difficult subject that I want, but because being smart is my identity, fear of failure paralyzes me and prevents me from studying hard. I prefer to fail because I haven’t studied enough rather then fail despite studying because if I study a lot and fail, my identity as a smart person is threatened and that thought makes me want to procrastinate and avoid studying. Sometimes, I wish that I wasn’t as smart as I am. Sometimes, I wish I had an average IQ.

你知道的，人类会下意识避开威胁到我们优势的事情，比如，智商高就是我的优势，所有会威胁到这一点的都会令我感到害怕，我就会下意识的避开，从学习这件事情上就能很好的验证这一点，我有能力学好任何一门我想学好的科目，因为我的优势就是很聪明，但是对失败的恐惧让我没有办法努力学习。如果没有好好学习，失败了，对我来说影响不大，但是如果我已经非常努力的学习了，最终还是失败，那么别人可能就不会觉得我是个聪明人了。因为我害怕别人觉得我不是聪明人，所以我就一直拖延，也不好好学习，有时候，我非常想自己如果没有那么高的智商多好，有时候，我宁愿我自己是个普通人。

Asoka Selvarajah
I think we can work ourselves up to be unhappy and envious about pretty well anything if we put enough effort into it.
It seems to me that you are holding down a very decent job, have a good solid career, and doubtless enjoy many of the benefits that go with this. It is something to be proud of, no matter what your IQ. Did you know that there are many geniuses out there homeless in the freezing cold, living under a bridge with a cardboard box for a home? Are you really envious that their IQ is so much higher than yours?…

我认为，如果我们付出了足够的努力，完美的人会让我们不高兴或者产生嫉妒。
在我看来，你拥有一份体面的工作，前途一片光明，你肯定可以从中获得很多好处。不管你智商是多少，这一点都是值得骄傲的。你知道吗？还有智商很高的天才生活在桥下的纸箱里呢，他们在冷风中无家可归，这种情况下你真的会羡慕他们吗？你会嫉妒他们智商比你高吗？

You have a fantasized abstract notion of what a high IQ person is. There is far more to life and success than a high IQ. You and a person with double your IQ might take on a certain type of task, and you might far outperform, because the job calls for skills beyond just raw IQ alone.
High IQ has its downsides. You are far more likely to fit in better with overall society than a person with a high IQ. You will be less prone to being alone, friendless, and engaging in massive over-thinking leading to inaction than a person with an extreme IQ. You may be more tolerant and more humane with others than such a person.

你把高智商的人等同于成功人士啦。想要拥有成功的人生，仅仅只有高智商是不够的。你和智商是你两倍的人一起做某项任务，你的表现可能会远远超过那个智商高的人，因为完成这项工作并不仅仅只需要高智商。
高智商的人也是有缺点的，与智商高的人相比，你可以更好的融入这个社会，拥有极高智商的人更容易变得孤单，缺少朋友，不停的思考问题而导致无所作为，与这样的人相比，你是一个更加宽容更好相处的人。

You know, to this very day, I continue to feel somewhat down on myself due to the fact that I never went to Oxford or Cambridge University (in UK), but just to a provincial university. It was a source of very great shame to me at the time, and still is a little bit, although I keep it well concealed. Even now, when I hear that someone went to Oxford or Cambridge, I feel it inside me.

你知道吗？至今我对自己感到失望，因为我没有读过牛津大学或英国的剑桥大学，而只是在一所省级大学读书。其实对我来说，我一直觉得很羞愧，尽管我把这一点隐藏起来了，但直到现在我还这么想。即使是现在，当我听到有人去读牛津大学或剑桥大学时，那种藏在心里的感觉又会冒出来。

This is despite the fact that I hold a PhD in Nuclear Physics, did a job in Investment Banking with a six-figure salary for several years, and authored a couple of books. So you see, we can upset ourselves and feel inferior about absolutely anything, if we put our minds to it, can’t we?
Did you know that all the Nazi leaders were people with high IQs - some extremely high - and they all without exception rated Hitler as a genius i.e. smarter than them? Can you be angry and jealous about them all having a higher IQ than yours? I hope not, and I doubt it. They did not put their genius to very good use, did they?
So, look to what you have in life with thankfulness and seek to expand upon it. You probably are doing very well in areas of life that do not involve high IQ. Be happy about it. If the matter continues to upset you, read Tony Buzan’s “Book of Genius” and you will find out that there are many different measures of intelligence apart from IQ, and you almost certainly rank very highly on them.

尽管我现在有了核物理的博士学位，在一家投资银行工作，年薪六位数，还写了几本书，但是，你会发现，如果这件事藏在我们内心深处了，我们永远会觉得自己比不上其他人，并且时常感到沮丧。
你知道吗？所有纳粹领导人都是智商高的人，其中有些人智商很高，大家都认为希特勒是天才，认为希特勒比他们聪明。你会因为他们的智商比你高而生气和嫉妒吗？我希望不要。我怀疑他们没有很好地利用他们的天才。
因此，要对你拥有的一切常怀感恩之心，并且在你所拥有的事情上寻找突破点，在不涉及高智商的生活领域中，你可以做得非常好。对自己的生活保持乐观，如果这个事情还是对你造成困扰，去读一下托尼·布的《天才之书》，你会发现，除了智商以外，还有许多其他的评测智力的指标，你在那些指标上的得分肯定很高。
Jude Mentz-Gibbons, Writer, Mystic, Artist, social welfare experience (2009-present) 作家，神秘主义者，艺术家，做社会福利工作（2009年至今）

Why are you angry about not having a higher IQ and envious of those who do? - because you are comparing yourself to others. You are looking at what is “deficient in you” (in your mind) rather than “acknowledging and working on your strengths”. Possibly because others have pressured or berated you for not living up to their expectations on what it is to be successful according to societies standards. Forget them and listen not, as success and our worth is not measure by “IQ”. It is measured by doing our best with what we have that enhances our lives and that of others.

为什么你会因为自己智商不高而感到生气呢？嫉妒那些拥有高智商的人吗？因为你在拿自己和别人比较的时候。你看到的是你眼中“你自己的不足”，而不是“承认和发挥你的优势”。是不是因为别人对你施加了压力或者斥责你，因为你没有达到他们的期望，不符合社会对成功的标准呢。不要听他们的，因为一个人的成功和个人价值不是用“智商”来衡量的。是通过尽我们所能的改善我们以及他人的生活来衡量。

We “all” have are own unique abilities, strengths and talents that can enhance our lives and others, and not all necessarily incorporates a high IQ; - find yours, nurture it, believe in yourself and go out into the world and shine “being you”. No one else can do that.
Just because someone has a higher IQ does not make them better than you. As with any gift we possess it is “how we use it” and whether it serves to benefit others or the world in some way, that offers the most value.

我们每个人都有自己独特的能力、优势和才能，你可以利用特质去改善自己或者他人的生活，但不一定要有高智商；找到你的特质，相信自己，并且发挥出自己的优势，你会因为做自己而闪闪发光，相信自己是独一无二的，别人都做不到。 
你只需要记住，拥有高智商的人并不意味着他们比你要优越，高智商也像一个礼物，最有价值的部分是“我们如何使用它”，以及他是不是能够让他人或者整个社会受益，那才是真正的价值所在。

Imagine this scenario. There is a homeless, hungry man sitting on the footpath adjoining a main road. Joe Blow, who is a genius, walks briskly by and ignores the man’s plea for help, through either looking down on him or is embarrassed to be seen with him. Then another person walks by who may be of average intelligence and stops to talk to the man. She/he recognises that he is hungry and thirsty and buys the man food, offering it to him and some water. Who do you think is more worthy and of value to the homeless man? He does not care about the intellect of the person, but how someone came along and made his life a bit brighter offering kindness and meeting his needs at that time. Who is the better more valuable person in this situation?

那你可以想象一下这个场景，有一个无家可归、饥肠辘辘的人坐在一条主干道旁的人行道上。天才乔·布劳尔，迈着轻快的步子路过，对这个男人视而不见，忽视这个男人的求救，要么是看不起他，要么是觉得被人看到和他在一起感到尴尬。然后另一个人走过来，他可能智商一般，然后停下来和他交谈。他意识到他又饿又渴，给他买了食物和水。在这种情况下，你觉得谁对一个无家可归的人更有帮助。这个无家可归的人并不在乎谁的智商比较高，他关注的是，那个人是如何出现的，是否给他的生活带来了光明，带给他善意，让他不再饥肠辘辘。在这种情况下，谁才是是更好更有价值的人呢？

The intellect does not make the man or woman - the heart does. And how we use any gift we are born with. If we use our intellect and/or talents (it may be with our deeds or hands) offering something of value through it - is of higher worth than just bragging rights. Stop comparing yourself to others and just become the best version of you, and go out and make your mark on the world and be happy. It is all that is required to living a fulfilled life.

智商不能决定你成为怎么样的人，而是你的心指引你变成什么样的人，这主要取决于怎么使用上天赠与的天赋。如果我们用智慧、才能或者说我们的双手和行动，创造出一些有价值的东西，那肯定比鼓吹权力有意义多了。不要再和别人比较了，你只要变成最好的自己，去看看这个世界吧，并在这个世界留下一些有价值的东西，开心起来吧！你的生活也会越来越充实。
Louis Alley, BS Engineering Physics (2007) 工程物理学学士（2007）

Mine is, or at least was, pretty high. Maybe 150. Not Stephen Hawking but it got me an Ivy League degree in physics, and I can stop working at 40. Here’s the thing about IQ… it basically says how fast can you come up with and eliminate incorrect solutions to certain types of puzzle problems. If you can do that fast, either by training or by birth, then they give you a good score. And for sure, there are some high paying jobs that demand this kind of work, so having a high IQ gives you a better shot at those.

我的智商很高，至少曾经很高，也许有150。我不是斯蒂芬·霍金，但我获得了常春藤大学的物理学学位，而且我在40岁就不再工作了。这些就和智商有关，因为智商可以反映你可以对疑难问题快速提出解决方案，并且快速排除错误的解决方案。如果你与生俱来就能做到这些，或者你通过后天训练可以快速提出解决方案。那么你将会取得很好的成绩。可以肯定的是，有一些高薪工作需要用到这些技能，所以拥有高智商可以让你能够很好的应对这些工作。

But that’s kind of a danger. Because this kind of work can give high IQ people a false sense of success. And therefore they don’t develop other abilities that are just as important - emotional intelligence especially. So then you end up being a high IQ brain slave to people who have developed better relationship skills. These people are called managers.

但这也是危险的。因为这种工作会给智商高的人带来一种成功的错觉。因此，他们不会重视其他能力的发展，尤其是情商。因此，你最终除了智商高一无所有，你就是个解决问题的机器而已，但其他人已经发展了更好的人际关系，然后他们升职变成了经理。

The other big thing I’ve learned is that intense focus is the single most important metric for achieving a goal. By goal I mean something real and important - curing cancer, building an electric car, raising a healthy family. Having a high IQ doesn’t mean you have focus. The low IQ person with focus on a goal will beat the multi tasking high IQ person every time. Taking the time to plan and prioritize your effort is way, way more important than solving technical puzzles quickly. If you have focus and relationships, you’ll hire high IQ people to work on those things. You will be their boss.

另一个我学到的点是，要想实现目标，最重要的一点是你必须要集中注意力。我所说的目标是那些切实并且非常重要的事情，比如说：治愈癌症，制造电动汽车，养育一个健康的家庭。智商高并不意味着你可以做到专注。专注于同一目标的低智商的人可以打败那些同时进行多任务的高智商的人。比起快速解决技术问题，计划和统筹工作重点是更重要的方法。如果你非常专注并且拥有人脉，你可以雇佣高智商的人来解决疑难问题。你当他们的老板就好了。

So please don’t get hung up on this weird puzzle number that psychology fixated on many decades ago. You have a lot to offer the world… all you have to do is plan and focus.

因此，你不要再过分关注心理学家在几十年前设定的数值上了。你可以为社会做更多贡献。你要做的就是学会做规划，并且保持专注。