察言观色：共情能力的浅层表现（中英双语）
Seeing through people: the lower manifestation of empathy.
听起来，共情是一种能力，是，也不是。你能感受别人的痛苦和快乐，能够看到、听到、察觉到别人的情绪变化。
It feels like empathy is a kind of ability, it is true, though, false as well. You can feel others’ pains and happiness, you can see, hear and perceive the subtle changes of others’ emotions.
想要这种能力吗？你觉得你想，但其实你不想。就像很多人总觉得另一份工作更适合自己，或者某某职业是自己的理想工作，不过是没有看到背后的逻辑罢了。就是他们情绪和看法的来源，以及看到种种必然性和可能性的能力。
Want this ability? You want, but actually, you do not want. Just like many people always reckon another job is more suitable (air quote here) for them, or some particular occupation is their ideal fit, but this is merely due to their not seeing the underlying logic behind it, which is the origin of where their emotions and opinions come/derive/spring from, along with the ability to see all the certainties and possibilities.
就像，从来没有完美的工作，你觉得完美的工作，只是你觉得。说白了，就像别人家的饭菜更香是一个道理。就像很多人想做舞蹈家或者歌唱家，但其实他们中的绝大部分根本受不了背后的无数次的孤独的令人绝望的反复练习，就像他们忍受不了现在工作的某些方面一样。
The same thing goes like, there is never a perfect job for anybody, the job you regard as perfect is just a delusion. To put it straightforwardly, more like, the grass is always greener on the other side. For example, loads of people may be willing to be a singer or a dancer, but in fact, most of them will not be able to bear the countless, desperate and repetitive practice while being super solitary at the same time, exactly as they can not stand some parts of their current work.
你想要共情吗？真的想吗？那来看看一些可能的事实与共情能力的层级吧。
You want empathy? Desperately want it? OK, let us have a look at the basic truth of it and some possible levels of empathy capacity.
首先，共情的底色也是痛苦，就像喜剧的内核是悲剧。
First of all, the base colour of empathy is misery/pain/sorrow, the same as that the core of comedy is always tragedy.
当你能够看到喜剧的内核，也许，就不再能看喜剧了。因为别人会笑，但你可能会哭，而且可能别人笑得越厉害，你哭得越伤心。除非，这个喜剧档次够高，也许你已超出那个自我，那或许是不一样的结局和情况了。
When you are able to see the kernel of comedy, here is a possibility that you can never watch comedies, the reason is, other people may laugh while you may cry. And it is likely that the harder others laugh, the more sadly you may cry. Except that this comedy is in much higher level(air quote here.), or possibly you have exceeded over the self, then it would be different situations and results.
共情也是一样的，分为多个档次（Brand个人臆测，无实际数据支撑）。 0级，初级，中级，高级，神级。
There are several levels in empathy capacity.( Personal conjecture from Brand, no backup of practical data.) Level 0, low level, middle level, high level, god level.
0级：
也算罕见的了，也许压根没有。那毫无人性的恶魔，那无畏无知的傻子，还有那欲望填满心田的暴躁灵魂们，多少趋近于0级。
LEVEL 0:
Pretty rare, or likely no of them at all. Those inhuman devils, those dauntless fools, and those fiery souls whose hearts are filled with lusts.
初级：
A 能有一些基本的反应，能因为感知到一点别人的痛苦而伤心的哭，能偶尔通过自己的经历感知别人的痛苦。
B 察言观色。通过一些基本的书籍或者培训，具备了一定的观察能力，其实也是共情的表现之一，只是被物质化的共情。
Low level:
A Have same reactions to emotions. May cry sadly because of feeling others’ pains, occasionally feel pains from others by empathizing through their own experiences.
B See through people. Via some books or training, equipped with sort of observation ability, actually this is just part of manifestation of empathy capacity, though kind of materialistic.
中级：
A 相对较容易感知别人的痛苦。
B 察言观色。不再依托所谓的信号，凭借感知能力共情能力察觉别人的心态、心情和情绪变化。
Middle level:
A Easily sense others’ pains and sorrow.
B Seeing through people. No longer rely on signals（air quote here）, perceive others’ mentality, mood and emotional changes based on perception and empathy.
高级：
A 多愁善感。良性的知足感恩，非良性的，可能抑郁自杀等。
B 疲于观察。社恐，自闭，害怕人性。
High level:
A Sentimental, or mushy. Benign one, being content of life, if not, possibly depressed, likely to commit suicide.
B Exhausted of perception. Social phobia, autism, fear of humanity.
神级
谁知道呢，也许，有大爱，或极恶。
God level.
Who knows? Probably, philanthropic, or heinous.
以上只是顺口闲聊，请勿当真，随便看看，aha
All of the above are just a small talk, please do not take it seriously, just hang around and have fun.
最后，共情不仅是一种观察能力，更多是一种专注在自己身上的能力，不再需要通过自己的经历而感知对方的心情，而是你能从对方传递的信息基本感知对方的状态、想法和心情。
Finally, empathy is not simply a kind of observation ability, but more like an ability that you can focus on your own. More importantly, you do not need to sense others’ emotions based on your own experiences, instead, you may know their state, thoughts and mood by the information and messages they deliver.
随想随笔，我自嘻嘻
Think and write, be happy-go-lucky.
