【龙腾网】当你开始想念一个逝去的人时，你会怎么做？（第一弹）
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提前和大家分享文中的一句话：
记住你身边还有活着的人，但他们不会永远活着。哀悼和悲伤是可以的，但是不要让它压倒你，以至于你忘记了你周围那些仍然活着的人。
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Thatdewd57 57
Miss them.
想念他们。
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I watched my father die. I was there for his last moments and it’s a memory forever ingrained in me those last moments. But when I think of that time which normally saddens me, I immediately think about all the good times we had. The valuable life advice I got from him. And that helps.
我看着父亲死去。在他生命的最后时刻，我一直陪伴在他身边，那些最后的时刻已经成为我永远铭记的记忆。但是当我想起那段让我伤心的时光时，我马上想起来的是我们曾经拥有的美好时光以及我从他那里得到了宝贵的人生建议。这很有帮助。
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Edit: First I want to thank you all for sharing your kind words and messages. Sharing your stories and the current phases you are in when it comes to losing someone close to you. There’s no magical process or words I can offer any of you to make it better. I can only share from my own experience that it just took time and trying to always remember the good times. We both loved wrestling and football.
编辑: 首先，我要感谢你们所有人对说的好话和鼓励。分享你的故事以及当你失去亲人的时候你是什么感受。没有什么神奇的过程或者语言可以让你们变得更好。我只能分享我自己的经历，这需要时间和尝试永远记住美好的时光。 我们都喜欢摔跤和足球。
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We both loved conversations. We both loved some whiskey and a nice big steak together. Those and many more good memories I hold and cherish. Thank you as well for those of you kind enough to spend some of your hard earned money to award me as well. I will calculate the amount given and pledge to donate to a local charity.
我们都喜欢交谈，喜欢喝威士忌，一起吃牛排。 这些以及更多我珍藏的美好回忆。 也谢谢你们这些善良的人花了一些你们辛苦赚来的钱来奖励我。我会统计出金额，并承诺捐赠给当地的慈善机构。
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rondell_jones Rondell jones
Same for me. My dad died recently and was at the hospital beside him for his last moments. I never understood what people meant by "closure" until that moment. I heard all the about families getting closure for their loved ones passing away and they were torn apart if they didn''t. Knowing that he passed, seeing him pass, and knowing that I was by his side definitely gave a bit comfort in a weird way.
我也是。我父亲最近去世了，在他生命的最后时刻，我一直在医院陪伴着他。直到临终那一刻，我才明白人们所说的“结束”是什么意思。我听说过所有关于家人接受他们亲人逝去的事实，如果他们不这样做，他们就会被痛苦撕成碎片。知道他已过世了，临终前一直陪在他身边，某种意义上这会让你稍微安心一些。
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KevHes1245 1245
I was the only one there to watch my dad pass, though I called my brother on the phone and let him be there on speaker.
我是我爸爸过世的时候唯一一个陪在他身边的人，我也打电话给我了哥哥，让他开免提一起陪着爸爸。
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For me, missing him sometimes means a desire to spend time understanding him more fully; his hobbies, loves, hates, work history...
对我来说，思念他有时意味着想花时间来更充分地了解他;包括他的爱好、爱、恨、工作经历... ..。
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You see my dad has always smoked meat for every occasion (aside from steaks on grill also) and family event. We owned a cattle ranch and my dad took pride in being from Cowtown, Fort Worth Tx, for 100+ years.
你知道，我爸爸总是在各种场合(除了烧烤牛排之外)和家庭活动中抽烟。我们拥有一个养牛场，我父亲为自己来自 Cowtown 感到自豪，Fort Worth Tx已经有100多年了。
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My dad passed 2 years ago last week and I now own a meat smoking company and smell smoked mesquite wood quite often. I miss him, and grief never disappears unless you forget, and I chose to remember.
我父亲两年前的上周去世了，我现在拥有一家肉类烟熏公司，经常闻到烟熏豆科灌木的味道。我想念他，除非你选择忘记，否则悲伤永远不会消失，而我选择了回忆。
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I have all of his and his mother''s (Mama died in ''15 or so ) documents and historic information. I should explore who they were more in depth, but really haven''t the backbone to open those boxes just yet.
我有我父亲和奶奶的所有过往资料。我应该更深入地探究他们是谁，但是我还没有勇气打开这些盒子。
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Kitten_Kabooodle
Same here. My dad had early onset dementia and passed away 5 years ago today aged 65. So for me, I try to see his death as a relief. He''s not suffering anymore, no loss of dignity etc. In saying that though, I miss him like crazy but try to think of the happy memories, as you do.
我也是。 我父亲患有早发性痴呆症，5年前的今天去世，享年65岁。所以对我来说，我试着把他的死当作一种解脱。他不再痛苦，不再没有尊严的生活等等。虽然这么说，我还是像疯了一样想念他，试着想想那些美好的回忆，就像你一样。
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There is SO much I would have said.
我有很多话要说。
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chipperelephants
My dad died on February 25th. I was also there with him during his last moments. I’m 22 and have very little other family and the whole thing was so traumatizing being practically alone. He was everything to me. I hope that someday I’m able to immediately think of all of the good times we had instead of the long months leading up to his passing as he fought cancer and ceased to even look like my dad anymore. That still haunts me.
我父亲于2月25日去世。在他生命的最后时刻，我陪在他身边。我今年22岁，身边几乎没有其他家人，孤身一人的生活给我造成了巨大的精神创伤。他是我的一切。我希望有一天，我能够立刻想起我们曾经拥有的美好时光，而不是想起在他与癌症抗争的那段痛苦的经历。这个问题一直困扰着我。
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Rebornhunter
I was with my father when he passed, in early April. It''s almost June and I still remember those final moments with stark clarity, but they don''t overwhelm me as they did early on. He died peacefully in his home. Those last few days with him even stick hard with me sometimes.
父亲四月初去世的时候，我和他在一起。现在已经快六月了，我依然清晰地记得那些最后的时刻，但它们并没有像早些时候那样让我感到不知所措。他在家里平静地去世了。和他在一起的最后几天现在仍然历历在目。
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But it''s the good memories and stories that help the most
但是美好的回忆和故事才是最有帮助的
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Louise_thecat
I try to think of something else. I lost my twin sister 6 years ago to suicide. I never thought of life without her. We came into the world together I never thought we wouldnt leave together. It is unbearable.
我试着想点别的东西。我的双胞胎姐姐6年前自杀了。我从来没有想过没有她的生活。我们一起来到这个世界，我从没想过我们不会一起离开。这是无法忍受的。
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ArAMITAS
Just imagining this horrifies me. I can not imagine the pain you have gone through!I live states away from my twin now and sometimes fear losing him. I long for the day we live closer. I dont know how I could go on without him. I am truly sorry.
一想到这个就让我害怕。我无法想象你所经历的痛苦! 我现在住在离我双胞胎兄弟几个州的地方，有时候害怕失去他。我渴望我们住得更近的日子。 我不知道如果没有他我应该怎么活下去。 关于你经历的事情，我真的很抱歉。
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I hope that if you haven''t, you find people that help bring meaning and peace in your life.
我希望你能找到那些能给你的生活带来意义和平静的人。
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theballinstalin
I feel this because my twin brother has been here through all my suicide attempts. I can’t even imagine losing him. I wish you peace, and feeling as close to whole as you can
我之所以有这种感觉，是因为我的双胞胎兄弟在我自杀未遂的时候一直在我身边。我甚至无法想象失去他的日子。我希望你生活会归于平静，尽可能做一个身心完整的人。
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sinisterLS
Thank you so much for this. I''m a twin and I have had a lot of suicidal thoughts lately I really never thought of it like that. I''m so sorry for your loss.
非常感谢。我也是双胞胎，最近我有很多自杀的念头，我之前真的从来没有这样想过。请节哀顺变。
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IchthysPharmD
Same. I always try to think of something else. I lost my best friend to suicide. It''s been almost 10 years and I still haven''t got past the ''rage'' stage of grief.
一样。 我总是试着去想别的事情。我最好的朋友自杀了。现在已经快10年了，我仍然没有完全放下那段悲伤和愤怒的经历。
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gingergirl77
I have a twin sister and I couldn’t imagine losing her. Ever. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
我有一个双胞胎妹妹，我无法想象失去她的感觉。永远。我很抱歉让你经历这些。
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I couldn’t imagine losing a part of myself like that. I hope you are doing okay. Sending love.
我无法想象失去自己的一部分的日子。我希望你一切都好。加油！。
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pixiehobb
My twin is part of my reason to keep living. I can''t begin to imagine your grief. I hope you find peace in your life.
我的双胞胎兄弟是我活下去的一个原因。我无法想象你的悲伤。我希望你在你的生活中找到平静。
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Jebus_Jones
Jesus, that''s rough.
天啊，这太糟糕了。
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I''m not the most demonstrably loving twin brother, but I couldn''t imagine losing my twin sister, especially to suicide. Feel for you my friend.
我没有一个最可爱的双胞胎兄弟，但我有一个双胞胎姐姐，我无法想象失去她的日子，尤其是自杀。同情你，我的朋友。
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mercy2020
as a fellow twinless twin, your story touches me. have you heard of the twinless twin support group on facebook? if you haven’t i would really suggest joining, it’s been a huge help in my healing process. as we like to say, twin hugs!
作为一个双胞胎兄弟，你的故事触动了我。你听说过脸书上的无双胞胎互助小组吗？ 如果你没有，我建议你加入，这对我的康复过程帮助很大。 就像我们常说的，双胞胎拥抱！
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ManFromRuins Manfroruins
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my youngest sister to suicide about 4 years ago. To this day it amazes how the happiest of people are sometimes the one’s who are about to descend to self-pain. I hope you have figured out the peace you need in your life
请节哀顺变。大约4年前，我最小的妹妹自杀身亡。最快乐的人有时也会堕落到自我痛苦的地步，这让人感到惊奇。 我希望你已经找到了你生活中需要的平静。
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Ren_G
If my twin was to commit suicide I don''t think I would be able to cope with anything at all for several years. So sorry for your loss.
如果我的双胞胎兄弟要自杀，我不认为我能够很快走出来。请节哀顺变。
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PoppaJMoney
I’m so sorry, no one else could ever understand this, I lost my twin brother 8 years ago to a falling accident, we were 22. Poof, gone. The only thing that keeps me going is to live my life to the fullest in his honor. It motivates me everyday be the best I can be to make it worth something.
我很抱歉，没有人能够真正理解你的感受，8年前的一次坠落事故，我失去了我的双胞胎兄弟，我们那是才22岁。噗的一声，他就消失了。唯一让我坚持下去的事情就是以他的名义充实地生活。 它每天都激励着我尽我所能让它变得有价值。
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OneLineRoast
I’m a twin and sometimes I think about that. My twin is THE most important person in my life. Losing him would devastate me. I’m so sorry for your loss :(
我是双胞胎，有时候我会想到这一点。我的双胞胎兄弟是我生命中最重要的人。失去他会让我崩溃的。请节哀顺变
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The_Immortal_Avenger
I''m sorry to hear that. Keep fighting! God be with you friend!
我很遗憾听到这个消息。继续战斗吧! 愿上帝与你同在！
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dizzywithoutthed
Cry
哭
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AustinTanius
Simple and pure. It can help so much.
简单而纯粹，哭确实会让你舒服很多。
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T_Quach T quach
My best friend of sixteen years passed away on Monday. I miss him so much.
我十六年最好的朋友星期一去世了，我非常想念他。
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sabssschell
This. There is nothing wrong with crying when you''re feeling the loss. My cat meant the world to me and she was a therapeutic part of my life during some of the worst years of my life. When I miss her, I look at pictures of her and of us together and I cry. Denying sadness doesn''t make it go away. Lean into it when you feel it, and when the feeling has gone away for some time, live your life.
当你感到失落的时候，哭泣并没有什么错。我的猫对我来说意味着整个世界，在我生命中最糟糕的几年里，它是我生活中治疗的一部分。当我想念她的时候，我看着她和我们在一起的照片，我哭了。否认悲伤并不能使它消失。当你感觉到它的时候，就倾身投入，当这种感觉消失一段时间后，继续过你自己的生活。
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CharlieBrownOfficial 1. CharlieBrownOfficial
Thanks for this. My dad died exactly 5 months ago, tomorrow. It’s easy to get caught up in all the things I wish I could have said to him and done with him since he was only 52. But it’s a great reminder to focus on all of the people who are still alive and all of the experiences and moments we will get to share together.
谢谢你。明天就是我爸爸去世5个月了。他去世的时候，只有52岁，我很容易陷入回忆那些我希望可以对他说的话和和他做的事情中。但这是一个很好的提醒，让我们关注所有还活着的人，关注所有我们将要一起分享的经历和时刻。
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MrNito
This. Remember that there are people around you who are alive and won''t be forever. It''s okay to mourn and be sad, but never let it overwhelm you to the point where you forget those around you who are still living.
记住你身边还有活着的人，但他们不会永远活着。哀悼和悲伤是可以的，但是不要让它压倒你，以至于你忘记了你周围那些仍然活着的人。
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Hamchickii
Yes, it always makes me want to reach out to friends I hadn''t talked to in a while. Because I kept putting off reaching out to him once I moved back into town and then he was gone and I never got to reconnect.
是的，它总是让我想去联系那些我很久没有说过话的朋友。 因为一旦我回到城里，我就一直推迟和他联系，然后他就走了，我再也没有和他联系的机会了。
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ThrowingLeaves43 43. throwingleaves
A man i knew for 13 years died in february of this year. he was a father to me, and several of my friends who lived in our neighborhood.
我认识了13年的一个男人今年2月去世了。他对我就像父亲一样，还有我的几个邻居朋友。
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he was alwas kind, and loved us all terribly. he was a mechanic for a looong time and always showed me how to fix my car and helped me understand manuals and schematics.
他总是很善良，非常爱我们。他做了很长一段时间的机械师，总是教我怎么修车，帮我理解手册和图表。
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i cried for days. i have been lucky in the sense that not many people who are close to me have died. but i felt this. best advice i can give is to not bottle it up. if you need to cry, then cry. i had a shot of jack for him, and i lit a candle for him the night he passed.
我哭了好几天。我很幸运，因为没有多少和我亲近的人死去。但我感觉到了这份悲伤。我能给你的最好建议就是别憋在心里。如果你想哭，那就哭吧。我给他点了一杯杰克，在他去世的那天晚上，我为他点了一支蜡烛。
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rest in peace Harvey, you were incredibly loved. we all miss you. i hope God welcomes you with open arms.
安息吧，哈维，你受到了难以置信的爱。我们都想念你。我希望上帝张开双臂欢迎你。
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northwestwill
r/endlessthread did an amazing episode of their reddit-centric podcast (Endless Thread) about dealing with loss that was called Shipwrecked. In it the shared a post that often graces reddit that I have come to love in times of loss, as well as it’s backstory.
R / endlessthread 在 reddit开了一个播客，其中做了一期关于如何处理伤疤的精彩节目，叫做《失事船只》。 在这篇文章中，我分享了一个经常出现在 reddit 上的帖子，这个帖子是我在失去亲人的时候最喜欢看的帖子，也是我的背景故事。
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“All right. Here goes. I''m old. And so what that means is I''ve survived so far and a lot of people I''ve known and loved did not. I''ve lost friends, best friends, coworkers, acquaintances, grandparents, my mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. But here''s my two cents — I wish you could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don''t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don''t want it not to matter. I don''t want it to become something that just passes. (man''s voice reading same passage fades in) My scars are a testament to the love and the relationships that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut or even gouged. And that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love and the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can''t see.
好吧，故事开始了。我老了，这意味着我活了很久，而我认识和爱过的很多人却没能活下来。在这些年，我失去了朋友，最好的朋友，同事，熟人，祖父母，我的妈妈，亲戚，老师，导师，学生，邻居，以及许多其他人。所以以下是我的建议ーー我希望你能说你已经习惯了人们的死亡。但我却从来没有，我也不想习惯。每当我爱的人死去，不管是什么情况，我的心都会被撕开一个大口子。 但我不希望亲人的离世变得无关紧要，我不也希望他/她成为一个过去式。 我的伤疤是我和我爱的那个人关系的见证。 如果伤痕很深，那么证明你们之间的爱情也很深。那就
这样吧。伤疤是你们之间生活的见证。伤疤是一个证明，我可以深深地爱，深深地生活，可以被悲伤的经历困扰，甚至被折磨。我都可以治愈，可以继续生活，继续爱，伤疤只会让我变得更强大。伤疤是生活的证明。只有看不见的人才会觉得伤疤难看。
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As for grief, you''ll find that it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it''s something physical. Maybe it''s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it''s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
至于悲伤，你会发现它会一波一波地来袭。当船第一次遇难时，你会被周围的残骸淹没。在你周围漂浮的一切都提醒你这艘船曾经是多么的美丽和壮丽，现在变成一堆残骸。你所能做的就是漂浮。你找需要到一块残骸，然后在上边坚持一会儿。这块残骸也许是身体上的原因。也许是一段美好的回忆或者一张照片。 也许也是一个漂浮的人。有一段时间，你所能做的就是漂浮。 活下去。
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In the beginning, the waves are 100 hundred feet tall and they crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don''t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you''ll find that the waves are still a hundred feet tall but they come further apart and when they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But, in between, you can breathe and you can function. You never know what''s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song or a picture. A street intersection. The smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything. And the wave comes crashing. But in between the waves, there is life.
一开始，海浪有100英尺高，它们毫不留情地冲向你。它们每隔10秒就会出现一次，你甚至没有时间喘口气。你所能做的就是坚持和漂浮。过了一段时间，也许是几周，也许是几个月，你会发现海浪仍然有100英尺高，但是它们间隔的更远，但当它们来的时候，它们仍然会把你全身撞得粉身碎骨。但是，在这两次海浪之间，你可以呼吸，你可以运作。你永远不知道什么会引发悲伤。 它可能是一首歌或一幅画。 一个十字路口。 一杯咖啡的香味。 它可以是任何东西。 然后海浪就来了。 但是在海浪之间，你可以生存。
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Somewhere down the line, and it''s different for everyone, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart and you can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O''Hare International, you can see it coming for the most part and you prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of wreckage, but you''ll come out.
沿着这条线的某个地方，每个人的情况都不一样，你会发现海浪只有80英尺高或50英尺高。当它们还在来的时候，已经分得很远了，你可以看到它们来了。一个周年纪念日，一个生日，或者圣诞节，你可以在很大程度上预见到它的到来，并且为自己做好准备。当它冲刷着你的时候，你知道你会再一次从另一边出来，浑身湿透，喷溅着，仍然挂在一些小碎片上，但你会走出来的。
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Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming. And somehow you don''t really want them to. But you learn that you''ll survive them. And other waves will come and you''ll survive them, too. If you''re lucky you''ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.”
听一个老家伙的话。海浪从未停止过。不知怎么的，你并不真的希望它们就此停止了，但是你知道你能挺过去。其他的浪潮也会来，你也会挺过去的。如果你幸运的话，你会有很多爱的伤疤。还有很多残骸。”
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It goes on so beautifully. I strongly encourage you to listen to the episode, particularly the last part where the poem is read live. It’s worth it.
一切进行得如此美好。我强烈建议你们听这一集，尤其是诗歌的最后一部分。非常值得观看。
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https://www.wbur.org/endlessthread/2019/06/14/shipwrecked
sixfigurefemme
I have been looking for that post! Thank you.
我一直在找这个帖子! 谢谢。
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_perl_ Perl
This is one of the greatest posts of all time. I''ve been personally comforted by it and have shared it with numerous friends, as we''re of that age where our parents are starting to pass away. Thanks for sharing it here.
这是有史以来最伟大的帖子之一。我个人对此感到很欣慰，并与许多朋友分享了这个故事，因为我们正处于父母开始去世的年龄。 谢谢你在这里分享。
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ThatLaloBoy
100% agree with this. I lost my fiancé 3 years ago and my best friend the year after that. That first year was hell and there were times when I wanted to just end it all. But I managed to keep it together and I am doing a lot better now, especially after getting professional help.
100% 同意。3年前我失去了我的未婚夫，之后又失去了我最好的朋友。第一年是地狱，有时候我真想结束这一切。但是我设法保持镇定，现在我做得更好了，特别是在得到专业帮助之后。
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I''m still a long ways away from going back to my carefree happy-go-lucky self and there are times when I do feel extremely sad remembering then. But it gets better. It may seem like it''s taking too long, but it does get better eventually.
我还有很长的路要走，才能变成我那无忧无虑的自己，有时候回想起那时的情景，我确实感到非常悲伤。但最终会变好的，这看起来需要花很长一段时间，但最终的确会变得更好。
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Coonts
That''s just spot on. We''re so lucky to have had someone worth missing so much.
说得太对了，我们真幸运，有一个值得我们思念的人。
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As for coping with waves as they come, finding a way to express the emotion rather than keep it inside helps. I focus it on things they liked to do, especially if we did it together. With dad I might call my brother up and talk football for a bit or go out hunting or fishing.
找到一种表达情感的方式去面对我们亲人的去世，而不是把它藏在心里，会有所帮助。 我专注于他们喜欢做的事情，尤其是我们一起做的事情。 和爸爸在一起的时候，我可能会打电话给我哥哥，和他聊聊足球，或者出去打猎或钓鱼。
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Lycosnic
Wow....I’ve used that exact same metaphor and thought I was so clever for coming up with it. This is way better.
哇... ... 我用了一模一样的比喻，觉得自己想出这个主意太聪明了。 这样好多了。
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Happy_Fun_Balll Happy fun balll
I have the original reddit post that the podcast is based on saved to my phone. Sadly, I’ve had to send it multiple times over the past few years, but it does seem to help. Post
在我手机里有这篇原版的 reddit 帖子。不幸的是，在过去的几年里，我不得不多次分享给周围的同事，但它似乎确实有所帮助。
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MsKaliMay
After my son died I saw this in a ss and it became the cornerstone for my grieving process. Every couple of days I’d pull up the photo and re read it. I wish I could find the OP to tell them how much they changed my life in those first few years.
在我儿子死后，我看到了这篇帖子，它帮助我度过了那段悲伤时刻。每隔几天，我就会翻出帖子，重新读一遍。我希望我能告诉他们在最初的几年里这部帖子是如何改变了我的生活的。
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It’s now been 7 years and I can safely say this post is 100% true. My biggest suggestion to anyone going through fresh grief is talk about it even if you’re making people uncomfortable. Make those people uncomfortable! Death is such a common experience yet it’s kept hush hush and surrounded by stigma. It’s okay to wanna talk about the dead. It’s okay to talk about your grief!
儿子去世已经过去7年了，我可以有把握地说这篇文章说的完全正确。对于那些正在经历新的悲伤的人，我最大的建议就是，即使你让别人感到不舒服，也要谈论这件事。让那些倾听者感到不舒！ 死亡是如此普遍的经历，然而每个人却不愿意谈论，感觉被耻辱包围着。谈论去世的亲人和倾诉你的悲伤是很正常的！
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What’s not okay is to bottle it up and let it eat you from the inside out. My son would have been 8 in a couple days and I can talk about him now like I’m talking about the weather and that’s because I didn’t shy away from the difficult discussions. I still get hit with waves of overwhelming grief but now I can see them coming, I can prepare for them.
不正常的是，自己把悲伤埋藏在瓶子里，让它从里到外地吃掉你，这是不对的。我的儿子再过几天就8岁了，我现在谈论他就像谈论天气一样，因为我没有回避艰难的讨论。我仍然会被无法抗拒的悲伤打击，但是现在我可以预见它们的到来，我可以为它们做好准备。
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I promise it will get easier
我保证会好起来的
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amaezingjew
If they died recently and they still have their phone number set up, call it. Listen to their voicemail. I did this a lot after my best friend died when I was 17. There was something so comforting about picking up the phone to call her and hearing her bubbly voice saying “Hi!! It’s me!! Leave me a message!”’and knowing she was smiling the entire time she was recording it.
如果他们最近去世了，而他们的电话号码还在，打电话给他们。听听他们的语音信箱。我最好的朋友在我17岁时去世后，我经常这样做。 拿起电话打给她，听到她活泼的声音说: “嗨！ 是我! ！ 请给我留言！ 知道她自己在录音的时候一直在笑。
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dudesez
If anyone is afraid of losing a loved one''s voicemail, this website will call their number, record the voicemail message, and email you an mp3 of it absolutely free: https://vmsave.petekeen.net/
如果有人害怕失去心爱的人的语音信箱，这个网站会拨打他们的电话号码，录下语音信箱的信息，然后给你发送一段完全免费的 mp3: https://vmsave.petekeen.net/
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panickingpup
I wish I had this option when my mom passed last year. My dad shut her phone completely down within a week
我希望去年我妈妈去世的时候我也有这个选择。 我爸爸在去世她一周内就把她的手机完全关机了
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DjDarkrai10 10
I remember reading a book once where someone paid their dead loved ones phone bill just so they could hear their voice in the voicemail.
我记得曾经读过一本书，里面有人为了能听到死去亲人的语音信箱，替他们支付电话账单。
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EndlessShortcomings
We just disconnected my brothers phone number after 11 years. All he says is his name in the most deadpan voice lol. Apparently my mother would call it every day just to hear his voice. I can only imagine how long we’d keep his line if my brother had a more welcoming voice mail message.
11年后，我们放弃了我兄弟的电话号码。他的语音信箱就是面无表情说了一声他的名字。我妈妈每天都打电话来只是为了听听他的声音。我能想象，如果我哥哥有一个更受欢迎的语音信箱，我们还能保留他的号码更长一段时间。
