英語口語— 外向 VS 內向 The dilemma of being e...
外向 VS 内向
Monologue of an introverted person:
Recently, I have been troubled by something. I am a rather introverted person and I don't like to interact with others. I also feel that I am not good at socializing. However, I recently tried going out to eat with my classmates and chatting with them. I found that they were not as difficult to get along with as I had imagined, and everyone was having a good time. Actually, I was quite happy too. But I'm wondering if I should change myself to be more outgoing and interact with others more for their sake. However, I'm also afraid that if I interact with others too much, I will get tired because I am naturally introverted. To get along with others, I need to try to talk more and not be too indifferent. I'm very conflicted and don't know whether I should choose to interact with others more or just be myself.
Advice:
Firstly, I want to remind you that everyone has their own personality and preferences, and there is no need to change yourself to meet the expectations of others. If you are an introverted person, you can continue to be yourself without feeling ashamed or inferior.
However, at the same time, interacting with others is an inevitable part of human social life, and it can also bring many benefits, such as enhancing interpersonal communication skills, expanding social networks, etc. If you want to try to interact with others, I suggest you start with small things, such as participating in class or social activities, taking the initiative to communicate with classmates, asking for their opinions on courses, assignments, interests, etc. You can also try to join some interest groups, which can help you better integrate into the collective.
In addition, getting along with others does not necessarily require becoming more extroverted. You can discover your own strengths and advantages from your introverted nature, such as being focused, meticulous, patient, etc. These qualities are also important for getting along with others. Moreover, you can choose to communicate with others at suitable times and in appropriate situations, without pursuing constant contact and communication with others.
Finally, remember to give yourself some time and space to be alone and relax, which can help improve your emotions and mental health. I hope these suggestions can help you.
最近有困扰我的事，我自己比较内向，不太想和别人接触，我也觉得我不擅长社交。但是最近我尝试了跟同学出去吃饭，一起聊天，我发现大家没有我想像中的难相处，大家都有说有笑的，其实我自己也挺开心的。但是我在想要不要为了别人而改变自己，外向一点，多跟别人接触，可能会令自己有不同的体验，但是我也害怕如果我跟别人接触，我会不会很累，因为我自己本来就是内向的人，为了和别人相处，我要尽量变得话多一点，不能太冷漠。我很矛盾，不知道该选择多和别人接触相处还是我应该做自己就好了。
建议：
首先，我想提醒你的是，每个人都有自己的性格和喜好，没有必要为了符合别人的期望而改变自己。如果你本来就是一个内向的人，那么你也可以继续做自己，不用感到羞愧或自卑。
但是，与此同时，与人相处是人类社交生活中不可避免的一部分，也可以为你带来许多好处，如增强人际交往能力、扩展人脉等。如果你想尝试与他人相处，我建议你可以从一些小事做起，如多参加班级、社交活动，主动与同学交流，向同学询问对课程、作业、兴趣爱好的看法等等，也可以尝试加入一些兴趣小组，这些都可以帮助你更好地融入集体。
另外，与人相处并不一定需要变得外向，你可以从自己的内向中发掘出自己的优点和长处，如专注、细致、耐心等，这些优点也是与人相处的重要品质。而且，你也可以选择在适合你的时间和场合下与人交流，不需要追求一直保持与人的接触和交流。
最后，记得要给自己一些时间和空间，让自己有机会独处和放松，这有助于提高自己的情绪和心理健康。希望这些建议能帮助你。
