【TED】你该认清你的恐惧而不是目标

【关注恐惧而非目标】（including Chinese ver. and English ver.）

“恐惧设置”

1）提前预设恐惧

*假设最坏的情况发生 我能怎样做心理建设

*我能如何降低最坏情况发生的可能性并且如何补救结果

2）成长型思维（关注尝试或者追求目标途中能得到的收获）

*或许在达到目标途中我们的情绪管理、心理坚韧程度等方面能得到有效提升

3）关注不行动所带来的后果

*如果不行动 将一无所获 还极有可能散失机会。不可避免地失去时间以及青春

（following is English ver. welcoming advices）

【You should focus on your fear instead of flag】

———recipe for avoiding self-destruction and self-paralysis.

stoicism（斯多葛学派）

*the stakes are very high（such as college student’s life、CEO’s excellent employee...）

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.”（a famous Stoic writer）

excise：premeditatio malorum

pre-meditation of evils.

1）write down the plan （such as traveling in London for rest or waiting government’ notice.）

2）persuade the worst situation happened and thinking what you can do for preventing it or lowering the likehood of them.

（such as if London would rain all the time I can change my plan and go spanish for travel. ）

What might be the benefit of an attempt or partial success.

（how to do this：）thinking of what benefits you will embrace during you implement this plan or concreting your thoughts including promote confidence or economy.

The Cost of Inaction

1）thinking of the atrocious cost if you take no action.For example，if the author take no action for his business，there likely are many problems comes to him such as the leaving of relationship、the time losing...

2）you can list numbers of problems you will face or achievements and good impacts you will gain.Then asking yourself honestly whether you can face the chanllenge you would get when you can get the benefits from it.

following is some opinions from a prominent athletic.

① he couldn't imagine any life more beautiful than that of a Stoic.

②“Easy choices，hard life.Hard choices，easy life.”

words in last：the most scaring-the element of chance

collection：give type of recipe for success. 灌输心灵鸡汤